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October 28 2021

My friends –

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

We all know this phrase from the Declaration of Independence. It’s been drilled in our heads from civics classes to speeches, especially around each July 4th holiday – and rightfully so. Since our nation’s founding, life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness have defined the American dream.

We all strive to be happy. Relationships are tough. I wish you all success in finding joy in the world, because it is out there. Be kind to others. Learn to forgive.

”Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” – Mary Tyler Moore

”Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” – Khalil Gibran

“If we must part forever, Give me but one kind word to think upon, And please myself with, while my heart’s breaking.” – Thomas Otway

“Falling in love is like holding a candle. Initially it lightens up the world around you. Then it starts melting and hurt you. Finally it goes off and everything is darker than ever and all you are left with is the.. BURN!” ― Syed Arshad

“The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.” – Jim Rohn

Olivia Rodrigo

Wanting to share this with you all.

I like her voice. What other talents can she offer? More than a few? And could you trade one skill or quality in exchange for more than one? And who determines these values in a relationship and does that suddenly or casually change during a relationship/partnership?

When I think about a strong women – I think about mom.

Who will wake up early, get the kids up for school? Make breakfast? Help them get to school and the homework? Then take care of the house, the meals – and make passionate love – and be a strong reinforcement partner to his success.

When I think about it, that is how I see a successful women and dance partner. A strong women. But hey, its 2021, what do I know. Just remember some are compatible – but select based on the inside.

Be kind to others. Learn from your mistakes.

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

They say time heals

LYRICS

So you wanna be riding around with your new bitch
That’s real cute
And you know what? I just got tickets to the Lakers game anyway
Yo, you could neverIf I ever made you angry, girl
Just know that it get better over time (time)
They say time heals (they say time heals)
She can’t see her life without me, she so blessed still (so blessed still)
Fuck that, you can tell him that you’re mine still (that you’re mine still)And she don’t wanna go to sleep she angry
Latеly she been noticing he ain’t meI wish that wе can change places
Don’t want no new, new faces
She got my heartbeat racing
They say time heals (they say time heals)
Don’t go build no life without me ’cause you’re mine still (you’re mine still)
Oh, and I don’t wanna go unless you make me
Lately I’ve been gone, I’m feeling crazyYeah, I’m from the bricks, we gotta whole lot of bricks
You gotta whole lotta tricks and I wanna see what you do with them
I just saw you in Miami, girl, what you doing here? (What you doing here?)
I hope you with your girlfriends (girlfriends)I ain’t pay attention to your heart, I played ya
Now she fell in love with an NBA player
Had her on the stage, now she ballin’ at the stadium
Matter fact I hope you stay with him
‘Cause I don’t wanna go unless you take me
I know you feel the painAnd she don’t wanna go to sleep she angry
Lately she been noticing he ain’t meI wish that we can change places
Don’t want no new, new faces
She got my heartbeat racing
They say time heals (they say time heals)
Don’t go build no life without me ’cause you’re mine still (you’re mine still)
And I don’t wanna go unless you make me
Down on my knees hoping you take me Better tell that brotha you mine
Heard you’ve been trying to tie the knot, girl, tell me you lyin’
Let me beat that pussy up one more time
Let me beat that pussy up one more time
I know that you feen for this
I know that you did not forget
So don’t go to sleep And she don’t wanna go to sleep she angry
Lately she been noticing he ain’t meI wish that we can change places
Don’t want no new, new faces
She got my heartbeat racing
They say time heals (they say time heals)
Don’t go build no life without me ’cause you’re mine still (you’re mine still)
Oh, and I don’t wanna go unless you make me
Lately I’ve been gone, I’m feeling crazy

That song is great – I enjoy it.

Lovers’ Infiniteness

“Lovers’ Infiniteness”: The poet complains that he does not yet have “all” of his beloved’s love, despite using all of his resources to woo her. She should not leave some love for others, nor should she leave herself open to wooing by others later. Yet, he also wants her to keep some of her love for him in reserve so that they can enjoy a constantly growing relationship.

Lovers’ Infiniteness

BY JOHN DONNE

If yet I have not all thy love,
Dear, I shall never have it all;
I cannot breathe one other sigh, to move,
Nor can intreat one other tear to fall;
And all my treasure, which should purchase thee—
Sighs, tears, and oaths, and letters—I have spent.
Yet no more can be due to me,
Than at the bargain made was meant;
If then thy gift of love were partial,
That some to me, some should to others fall,
         Dear, I shall never have thee all.

Or if then thou gavest me all,
All was but all, which thou hadst then;
But if in thy heart, since, there be or shall
New love created be, by other men,
Which have their stocks entire, and can in tears,
In sighs, in oaths, and letters, outbid me,
This new love may beget new fears,
For this love was not vow’d by thee.
And yet it was, thy gift being general;
The ground, thy heart, is mine; whatever shall
         Grow there, dear, I should have it all.

Yet I would not have all yet,
He that hath all can have no more;
And since my love doth every day admit
New growth, thou shouldst have new rewards in store;
Thou canst not every day give me thy heart,
If thou canst give it, then thou never gavest it;
Love’s riddles are, that though thy heart depart,
It stays at home, and thou with losing savest it;
But we will have a way more liberal,
Than changing hearts, to join them; so we shall
         Be one, and one another’s all.

Donne is firmly within the camp of metaphysical poets–those poets for whom considerations of the spiritual world were paramount compared to all earthly considerations. While a master of metaphysical expression, Donne achieves this mastery by refusing to deny the place of the physical world and its passions. He often begins with a seemingly carnal image only to turn it into an argument for the supremacy of God and the immortality of the soul.

I am not religious. I respect them all.

I belong to no group.

I am spiritual.

I had a recent death in my family, currently I grieve of his loss. When I saw him, he was happy, he was laughing, and

I love you cousin.

RIP Bryan 10/2/2021

When you see your loved ones, give them a hug – tell them you love them.

Always hope for the best.

Shaq is a Legend

‘Celebrities are crazy,’ basketball legend Shaquille O’Neal declares: ‘I denounce my celebrity-ness’

Former NBA superstar Shaquille O’Neal told the New York Post that he is denouncing his “celebrity-ness.”

“Celebrities are crazy,” he said. “How they treat people, what they do, what they say.”

But Shaq noted, “That’s never been me,” and said that he does not want to be viewed in that way.

O’Neal does not believe that his wealth and success make him better than other people. He described himself as a “regular person,” who “made it.”

“But just because I made it don’t mean I’m bigger than you,” said the 7-foot-1 NBA legend. “Just cuz I have more money than you don’t mean that I’m better than you. I’ve never been that way and I never will be that way.”

Shaq said “celebrities are goin freakin crazy,” noting, “I don’t wanna be one. I denounce my celebrity-ness today.”

His down-to-earth take could be refreshing to many Americans who have grown weary with celebrity culture in the U.S. and the haughty spirit exhibited by some stars.

So much respect for you Shaq!

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Compassion For Humanity

A terrible storm descents on a country town. Eventually the streets are flooded, and the water is rising fast. The town preacher is standing on the steps of the church, praying for deliverance, when a guy in a row boat comes by. “Better get in the boat, preacher! The water is rising fast!”

The preacher waves him away. “No. I have faith in the Lord. He will protect me.” And so the guy rows away.

The water keeps rising, and the preacher has to retreat to the bell tower. At this point, another guy comes by in a speed boat. “Get in, preacher! The dam is going to break, and we’ll all be washed away!”

Again, the preacher waves him away. “No. I have faith in the Lord. He will protect me.” And so the guy guns the engine and zooms away.

The flood waters keep rising, and the preacher is forced to climb to the very top of the steeple. About that time, a police helicopter flies overhead. The cops drop a ladder to the preacher and shout at him: “Grab the ladder, preacher! The dam has broken, and the water is coming this way fast!”

The preacher waves the chopper away. “No. I have faith in the Lord. He will protect me.”

Not long after the helicopter flies away, a huge wave of water comes rushing in, and the preacher drowns. He goes to heaven, and he is taken to see God. “My Lord! I had faith! I prayed to you! Why didn’t you save me?!”

And God says, “WHAT DID YOU WANT FROM ME? I SENT YOU TWO BOATS AND A HELICOPTER.”

Compassion begins with the awareness that we suffer and the other people suffer, but that’s not nearly the end of the story. Of course it matters that we recognize this. If we can’t, we may feel isolated and alone, or we may feel pity, contempt, or even anger. Once we connect with the awareness of our suffering and the suffering of others, we have some jobs to do. 

First: Consider that there is something we can do to address our suffering and the suffering of others.

This isn’t necessarily easy, especially if we’ve been hurting for a long time and feel overwhelmed by the scale of the pain we feel and witness. It can be very, very hard sometimes to remember that, whatever our situations, there is always something we can do to be kinder and more compassionate to ourselves and others.

Second: We then have the chance to look inside ourselves and decide if we are willing to do what it takes to address our suffering and the suffering of others.

Again, it may not be easy, but this is not a low-stakes game. This is your one-and-only life we’re talking about. You’re stronger than you imagine you are, and your willingness and intention to take even tiny steps toward addressing your suffering and the suffering of others matters—a lot.

Third: Once you can recognize the fact of suffering and feel willing to do something about it, the real work of compassion comes in moving your hands and feet.

Do something about it. The smallest, subtlest thing matters, Little things build quickly.
Will we put an end to suffering? No. And we probably wouldn’t want to if we could. The rose’s perfume is as much the result of its thorns as anything else. The love we feel for our lovers and our children is all the stronger because of the realization that our time with them is not without limit. Our suffering and the suffering of others is an invitation for us to fully be who we are: kinder, more caring, and more sensitive instruments for living.

Persistence. Continue to reach your goals. Have compassion and faith. Check out this great motivational video.

SFCompassion Source

Animal Intuition

All Dogs Are Different

LOL I think these dogs knew it was a stuffed animal.

Animals are very intelligent, they just need love and training. Both are needed in order to prosper. But they also have some internal skills.

Definition of intuition

1a : the power or faculty of attaining to direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference

b : immediate apprehension or cognition c : knowledge or conviction gained by intuition

Dogs: Super-Savvy, Socially

Although every dog is unique, there is enough evidence to indicate that species-wide one of the really special things about dogs is how well they understand humans. “They are very attentive to and responsive to us, which is a great social cognitive skill,” Dr. Alexandra Horowitz, head of the Dog Cognition Lab at Barnard College, Columbia University, told me.

Researchers don’t entirely agree on why dogs are so socially savvy. The prevailing view is that their social intelligence is evolutionary: that over the thousands of years since wolves entered the human sphere and started to morph into the pets we know today, breeding has favored qualities that make dogs good companions to humans, such as friendliness and an affinity for us, which make them good at reading our behavior.

There’s also a theory that each dog simply acquires his or her social intelligence through the sheer amount of time spent around humans – that’s why puppy socialization is so important.

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On September 20th, 2013 this website was launched.

Today marks an important event. It has been precisely 7 years, 11 months, and 28 days since I first created and posted here. I was in tech school at the time. It will be 8 years on the 20th.

What has changed since 2013. Can you remember 2013?

It doesn’t seem that long ago – but it will be 8 years! WOW!

Where will we all be in 8 more years… Perhaps it would be the proper time to read some poetry.

What is Poetry?

Writing a poem is not about bringing some words together to create some charming sentences.

It’s so much deeper than that. Writing poetry is a bridge that allows people to express their feelings and make others live every single word they read.

Poetry is to educate people, to lead them away from hate to love, from violence to mercy and pity.

Writing poetry is to help this community better understand life and live it more passionately.

Who is John Donne? One of the most famous poets.

I personally had no idea who this was, but looking for some great poems I came across this great man named John Donne. Here is some information on him.

His great education and poetic talents, Donne lived in poverty for several years, relying heavily on wealthy friends.

He spent much of the money he inherited during and after his education on womanizing, literature, pastimes, and travel.

In 1601, Donne secretly married Anne More, with whom he had twelve children.[5]

In 1615 he was ordained deacon and then Anglican priest, although he did not want to take Holy Orders and only did so because the king ordered it.

He also served as a member of Parliament in 1601 and in 1614.

John Donne was an English poet, scholar, soldier and secretary born into a recreant family, who later became a cleric in the Church of England.

Under royal patronage, he was made Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral in London.

Donne’s love poetry was written nearly 400 years ago; yet one reason for its appeal is that it speaks to us as directly and urgently as if we overhear a present confidence.

Let sea-discoverers to new worlds have gone,


Let maps to others, worlds on worlds have shown,


Let us possess one world, each hath one, and is one.

Some of Donne’s finest love poems, such as “A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning,” prescribe the condition of a mutual attachment that time and distance cannot diminish:

Dull sublunary lovers’ love


(Whose soul is sense) cannot admit


Absence, because it doth remove


Those things which elemented it.

But we by a love, so much refined,


That our selves know not what it is,


Inter-assured of the mind,


Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.

Ah yes, is it better to have love, then lost – then ever to love at all?

It is a very powerful emotion. The man who can completely control that emotion, is strong indeed.

Someday someone will break you. And then, you will become unbreakable.

Read more here.

Read more about John Donne @ Wikipedia

Difference between Sep 20, 2013 and Sep 16, 2021 (including both days): 7 years 11 months 28 days
or 95 months 28 days
or 417 weeks 0 days
or 2919 calendar days

Within which, there are:

Weekend Days*834
Holidays (show)80
Business Days2005

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LYRICS

Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need A little time to show you I’m worth it
I know that I can be a difficult person
I’m a stress case, drive you up the wall when I’m workin’
Actually, I’m probably worse when I’m not, you don’t deserve it
Make you nervous ’cause you know I’m a break soon
Every time I do, I say somethin’ that hurts you
Actin’ like I’m gone, but we both in the same room
I don’t like to be wrong, which I know you relate to
And I know I make you feel like you’re at the end of your rope
That’s when I look at you and tell you I’d be better alone
Just the pride talkin’, isn’t it? ‘Cause both of us know
I’m the definition of “wreck” if you look into my soul
Comes out the most when I feel I’m in a vulnerable place
Made a lot of mistakes I wish I knew how to erase
When I’m afraid, might get distant and I push you away
But no matter the case, I’ma do whatever it takes even if Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need Time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)Yeah, way before I bought you the ring
We were fighting back and forth like you were wearin’ the thing
Two passionate people not afraid to say what they think
Lead to passionate conversation when it’s hard to agree
You know me well, sittin’ on the edge of my seat
Lookin’ at life, over analyzin’ everything
Always depressed, tryna find a better version of me
Searching for somethin’ I know’s prolly right in front of my feet
Stubborn as me? Maybe not, but you’re close to it
Got a lot of issues, I’m tryin’ to work through ’em
Going to therapy for you’s somethin’ that’s worth doin’
When I know you been there for me through all of my worst moments
And I know it hurts knowing that I carry this weight on my chest
Making it difficult for me to open up and connect
Lot of regrets, I apologize for all of the stress
That’s not what I meant to do, you know I love you to death even if-Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need Time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)

Get in the best shape of your life

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I am wanting to be the best version of myself. More fit and healthy then in my entire life. Lets talk about: Serotonin, Endorphins, Enzymes.

Serotonin impacts every part of your body, from your emotions to your motor skills. Serotonin is considered a natural mood stabilizer. It’s the chemical that helps with sleeping, eating, and digesting. Serotonin also helps:

  • reduce depression
  • regulate anxiety
  • heal wounds
  • stimulate nausea
  • maintain bone health

Feel good after a long walk? These biochemicals are called endorphins. While endorphins might make you feel good after a long jog, there’s a lot more to know about the role they play in regulating your body.

Enzymes help speed up chemical reactions in the human body. They bind to molecules and alter them in specific ways. They are essential for respiration, digesting food, muscle and nerve function, among thousands of other roles.

Anyone battling a depressive disorder knows how bleak life can feel. Sometimes, you’d try almost anything to make those black clouds go away. I have helped loved ones battle this, with such a great cost. I wish I knew how to prevent the depression before just treating it. This is where my research is leading me.

Understandably, the idea that a few pills can make you feel better seems too good to be true. 

Unfortunately, this often IS too good to be true. 

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Depression is the world’s single largest contributor to disability. It affects an estimated 350 million people globally, which is around 4.4% of the world’s population.

In fact, the number of people with common mental disorders is increasing year by year, with the fastest-growing rates in lower-income countries. The World Health Organization estimates that 10% to 15% of the general population will experience clinical depression in their lifetime – including 5% of men and 9% of women.

Depressive disorders affect people of all ages and from all walks of life, but there are a number of factors that can increase the risk: namely family history, stressful life changes, psychological factors, low socioeconomic status, sleep disorders, and more. 

One of the longest-running theories in depression is of course the brain-chemistry imbalance. 

The role of brain chemistry in depression

Certain neurotransmitters – most notably dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine – play a crucial role in mood regulation. Neurotransmitters are chemical substances that help certain parts of the brain communicate with each other. Low amounts of these particular neurotransmitters are thought to contribute to the symptoms associated with clinical depression.

It’s for this reason that most antidepressants are designed to alter levels of certain chemicals in the brain. Some of these treatments include selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs), monoamine oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs), and tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs).

Do they work? Well, according to the research, yes they do – but some better than others. 

There are dozens of different antidepressants and “happy pills” available on the market now. The most common drugs used to treat depression include citalopram (Celexa), escitalopram (Lexapro), paroxetine (Paxil, Pexeva), fluoxetine (Prozac, Sarafem), and sertraline (Zoloft).

When antidepressants don’t work

A 2009 study from Northwestern University showed that more than half the people who take antidepressants for depression never get relief. The reason for this appears to be that drugs designed to treat depression are aimed at the wrong target. 

The researchers behind the study believe that antidepressants are ineffective because they treat stress and/or an imbalance in neurotransmitters in the brain. However, they suggest that the biochemical events that ultimately result in depression actually start in the development and functioning of neurons.

Medications focus on the effect, rather than the cause. This is why they take so long to work, and why they never work at all for some people.  

So, if the problem lies in your neurons, how do you treat it?

Well, one possibility could be – providing your neurons with the nutrients and protection they need. 

This is where my research has been leading me – how to cure the depression without medicine. How about, how to prevent depression? That would be the ideal situation. I also have enrolled in some classes, and I am learning new skills. Try taking vitamins regularly and invest in yourself.

Here is my list of needed tools to rebuild the chemistry inside your brain. I have lots more but will add them next post.

COLURACETAM

BACOPA

FRENCH MARITIME

NIGELLA SATIVA

N-ACETYL-L-CYSTEINE

ASHWAGANDHA

FISH OIL

S-ADENOSYL-METHIONINE

GINSENG+GINKGO BILOBA

ACETYL L-CARNITINE

MAGNESIUM

BRAHMI BACOPAA

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Practice meditation , prayer helps. Intense training, less sugar, learning new things, reading books, helping others.

Having pets can help immensely. I am training my bird. She is very intelligent.

Give yourself a chance and let go of the past. It’s always a work in progress. Always remember to love and have empathy and compassion in this world. Forgive others.