Category Archives: Love

Becareful Choosing Who You Love

This was a question that I asked a few guys. Here is some of the answers I got.

From Basil =

At first we look for a person who matches our selfish specifications. A partner that satisfies all the requirements we have for the perfect catch! This is the business deal. It works like this….

No…. it is a business deal that evolves into a selfless obsession

  1. I will deliver the sex you require in return for continued loyalty, attendance and attention
  2. I will display my personality so long as you accept and celebrate it.
  3. I will support you if you support me.
  4. I will communicate nice with you as long as you communicate nice with me.
  5. I will share your interests if you share mine.

Once the relationship gains maturity it becomes….

  1. I know you have human sexual needs and I commit to relieving you
  2. I accept the anomalies in your personality because you tolerate mine.
  3. I support you because I care.
  4. I will talk to you nice because I always get the same back.
  5. I look forward to sharing more quality time with you because it’s always fine!

So…. In the beginning it is a trade off, we decide if we are receiving what we need from a relationship. We evaluate the viability of co finance on the basis of personal benefit. This is the business of love!

In the end it becomes a mission of service. We simply look after the happiness quota of our partner.

From Ron =

Love is a BLOOD SPORT. It takes no prisoners for very long, sooner or later she will rip your heart out and feast on it right in front of you.

From Anonomous =

Life is too short for us to keep important words, for example, ‘I love you’, locked in our hearts.
But do not always expect to hear the same words back. We love because we need to love. Otherwise, love loses all meaning and the sun ceases to shine.
A rose dreams of enjoying the company of bees, but none appears. The sun asks:
‘Aren’t you tired of waiting?’
‘Yes,’ answers the rose, ‘but if I close my petals, I will wither and die.’
And yet, even when Love does not appear, we remain open to its presence. Sometimes, when loneliness seems about to crush everything, the only way to resist is to keep on loving.
Our one true choice is to plunge into the mystery of that uncontrollable force.
Then we discover, when we go home, that someone was there waiting for us, looking for the same thing we were looking for and experiencing the same anxieties and longings.

Because love is like the water that is transformed into a cloud: it’s lifted up into the heavens, where it can see everything from a distance, aware that, one day, it will have to return to earth.
Because love is like the cloud that is transformed into rain: it is drawn down to the earth, where it waters the fields.

Love is only a word, until we decide to let it possess us with all its force.
Love is only a word, until someone arrives to give it meaning.
Don’t give up. Remember, it’s always the last key on the keyring that opens the door.

Paulo Coelho de Souza

Lovers’ Infiniteness

“Lovers’ Infiniteness”: The poet complains that he does not yet have “all” of his beloved’s love, despite using all of his resources to woo her. She should not leave some love for others, nor should she leave herself open to wooing by others later. Yet, he also wants her to keep some of her love for him in reserve so that they can enjoy a constantly growing relationship.

Lovers’ Infiniteness

BY JOHN DONNE

If yet I have not all thy love,
Dear, I shall never have it all;
I cannot breathe one other sigh, to move,
Nor can intreat one other tear to fall;
And all my treasure, which should purchase thee—
Sighs, tears, and oaths, and letters—I have spent.
Yet no more can be due to me,
Than at the bargain made was meant;
If then thy gift of love were partial,
That some to me, some should to others fall,
         Dear, I shall never have thee all.

Or if then thou gavest me all,
All was but all, which thou hadst then;
But if in thy heart, since, there be or shall
New love created be, by other men,
Which have their stocks entire, and can in tears,
In sighs, in oaths, and letters, outbid me,
This new love may beget new fears,
For this love was not vow’d by thee.
And yet it was, thy gift being general;
The ground, thy heart, is mine; whatever shall
         Grow there, dear, I should have it all.

Yet I would not have all yet,
He that hath all can have no more;
And since my love doth every day admit
New growth, thou shouldst have new rewards in store;
Thou canst not every day give me thy heart,
If thou canst give it, then thou never gavest it;
Love’s riddles are, that though thy heart depart,
It stays at home, and thou with losing savest it;
But we will have a way more liberal,
Than changing hearts, to join them; so we shall
         Be one, and one another’s all.

Donne is firmly within the camp of metaphysical poets–those poets for whom considerations of the spiritual world were paramount compared to all earthly considerations. While a master of metaphysical expression, Donne achieves this mastery by refusing to deny the place of the physical world and its passions. He often begins with a seemingly carnal image only to turn it into an argument for the supremacy of God and the immortality of the soul.

I am not religious. I respect them all.

I belong to no group.

I am spiritual.

I had a recent death in my family, currently I grieve of his loss. When I saw him, he was happy, he was laughing, and

I love you cousin.

RIP Bryan 10/2/2021

When you see your loved ones, give them a hug – tell them you love them.

Always hope for the best.

live more passionately

On September 20th, 2013 this website was launched.

Today marks an important event. It has been precisely 7 years, 11 months, and 28 days since I first created and posted here. I was in tech school at the time. It will be 8 years on the 20th.

What has changed since 2013. Can you remember 2013?

It doesn’t seem that long ago – but it will be 8 years! WOW!

Where will we all be in 8 more years… Perhaps it would be the proper time to read some poetry.

What is Poetry?

Writing a poem is not about bringing some words together to create some charming sentences.

It’s so much deeper than that. Writing poetry is a bridge that allows people to express their feelings and make others live every single word they read.

Poetry is to educate people, to lead them away from hate to love, from violence to mercy and pity.

Writing poetry is to help this community better understand life and live it more passionately.

Who is John Donne? One of the most famous poets.

I personally had no idea who this was, but looking for some great poems I came across this great man named John Donne. Here is some information on him.

His great education and poetic talents, Donne lived in poverty for several years, relying heavily on wealthy friends.

He spent much of the money he inherited during and after his education on womanizing, literature, pastimes, and travel.

In 1601, Donne secretly married Anne More, with whom he had twelve children.[5]

In 1615 he was ordained deacon and then Anglican priest, although he did not want to take Holy Orders and only did so because the king ordered it.

He also served as a member of Parliament in 1601 and in 1614.

John Donne was an English poet, scholar, soldier and secretary born into a recreant family, who later became a cleric in the Church of England.

Under royal patronage, he was made Dean of St Paul’s Cathedral in London.

Donne’s love poetry was written nearly 400 years ago; yet one reason for its appeal is that it speaks to us as directly and urgently as if we overhear a present confidence.

Let sea-discoverers to new worlds have gone,


Let maps to others, worlds on worlds have shown,


Let us possess one world, each hath one, and is one.

Some of Donne’s finest love poems, such as “A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning,” prescribe the condition of a mutual attachment that time and distance cannot diminish:

Dull sublunary lovers’ love


(Whose soul is sense) cannot admit


Absence, because it doth remove


Those things which elemented it.

But we by a love, so much refined,


That our selves know not what it is,


Inter-assured of the mind,


Care less, eyes, lips, and hands to miss.

Ah yes, is it better to have love, then lost – then ever to love at all?

It is a very powerful emotion. The man who can completely control that emotion, is strong indeed.

Someday someone will break you. And then, you will become unbreakable.

Read more here.

Read more about John Donne @ Wikipedia

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NF TIME

LYRICS

Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need A little time to show you I’m worth it
I know that I can be a difficult person
I’m a stress case, drive you up the wall when I’m workin’
Actually, I’m probably worse when I’m not, you don’t deserve it
Make you nervous ’cause you know I’m a break soon
Every time I do, I say somethin’ that hurts you
Actin’ like I’m gone, but we both in the same room
I don’t like to be wrong, which I know you relate to
And I know I make you feel like you’re at the end of your rope
That’s when I look at you and tell you I’d be better alone
Just the pride talkin’, isn’t it? ‘Cause both of us know
I’m the definition of “wreck” if you look into my soul
Comes out the most when I feel I’m in a vulnerable place
Made a lot of mistakes I wish I knew how to erase
When I’m afraid, might get distant and I push you away
But no matter the case, I’ma do whatever it takes even if Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need Time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)Yeah, way before I bought you the ring
We were fighting back and forth like you were wearin’ the thing
Two passionate people not afraid to say what they think
Lead to passionate conversation when it’s hard to agree
You know me well, sittin’ on the edge of my seat
Lookin’ at life, over analyzin’ everything
Always depressed, tryna find a better version of me
Searching for somethin’ I know’s prolly right in front of my feet
Stubborn as me? Maybe not, but you’re close to it
Got a lot of issues, I’m tryin’ to work through ’em
Going to therapy for you’s somethin’ that’s worth doin’
When I know you been there for me through all of my worst moments
And I know it hurts knowing that I carry this weight on my chest
Making it difficult for me to open up and connect
Lot of regrets, I apologize for all of the stress
That’s not what I meant to do, you know I love you to death even if-Even if we both break down tonight
And you say you hate me, and we go to bed angry
I know everything will be alright
I’ll be here waiting, I promise I’m changing
I just need Time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh, oh)
I just need time (oh)
I, I need time (oh)
Time (oh), time (oh)